Grieving

I wish I had some more insight into grieving.

I have found that this process is difficult and the best help I get are the moments of silence I share with others. When I am alone the burden is great and I cannot go to the place inside that needs my attention but in the company of others I can often feel safe enough to visit that place of loss.

I wonder what will heal this, I see that time has closed up the edges a little. I wish I knew what the process was so I could patent an easier way... so far I have only seen the age old wisdom I already knew:

Loss and grief are much like wounds:

Acutely it is good to have some help to stop the bleeding - a pressure pack of family or friends.

Debridement is necessary to remove the irritations that stand in the way of healing or slow the process and this is a good place to get some help with perspective.

Initially there is a lot of itching involved but it is best to leave a wound alone to allow the healing to proceed naturally.

Unfortunately this is where I am right now... if the analogy holds there will be a time to stretch and strengthen the healing tissues so that the scar can be as strong as possible, I suppose that is the process of sharing and helping others in their grief. From what I know about wound healing, this phase is important to take gently and not push too hard.

We will see.

Growing

Seasons of nature, seasons of life: we are but reflections of the greater universe.

Our inner landscape is our access to the larger picture but only when we are fully engaged with the outside world. As the universe around us is reflected in the currents and eddies in our minds, so the discipline we generate in ourselves becomes reflected in the world. This is how we can truly touch each other, in love or hurt, and through this paradox we are the authors of each others fate.

Discipline does not come easily, that is its very nature. The rewards are great but the price is nearly as great. Many great people have seen that, in service to the world, we may forget the struggle of our own journey and that in struggling through our lessons we become cut off from the connection we most desire.

The river is flowing, look to the source for knowledge and help clear the path for peace.